it’s totally whilde!
most of the quotes are from the extraodinary Lord Henry.
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1.If you smile when one is around, you really mean it.
When it comes to dating and relationships, I often find myself wondering
how certain people end up with others. Wondering why they don’t walk
away if they don’t get what they deserve and hoping that they truly
appreciate their teammate if they are getting what they deserve.
I think a big part of the problem blurring this line is that many people
aren’t even quite sure what a healthy relationship looks like these days
or how a “good man” (or woman) should act towards their partner. To help
clarify, I have put together this list of how a good man should act
while in a relationship.
knowledge would be fatal. It is the uncertainty that charms one.
beauty is a form of genius—- is higher, indeed, than genius, as it
needs no explanation. It is of the great facts of the world, like
sunlight, or spring-time or the reflection in dark waters of that
silver shell we call the moon. It cannot be questioned. It has its
divine right of sovereignty. It makes prices of those who have
it………….. people say sometimes that beauty is only
superficial. That may be so, but at least it is not so superficial
as thought is. To me, beauty is the wonder of wonders. It is only
shallow people who do not judge by appearances. The true mystery of
the world is the visible, not the invisible.
all art is quite useless.
but beauty,real beauty, ends where an intellectual expression
begins. Intellect is in itself a mode of exaggeration, and destroys
the harmony of any face.
every portrait that is painted with feeling is a portrait of the
artist, not of the sitter.
2.Wonders are many, and nothing is more wonderful then man.
1. A good man never lets you forget how much he loves you.
I cannot tell you how many conversations I have had with people who tell
me that there is no affection in their relationship. The man in their
life does not make them feel loved, wanted or appreciated. This is a
profoundly important piece of the puzzle — a good man will always remind
you how much you mean to him.
3.The proper function of man is to live, but not to exist.
If someone truly loves you, you will know it and feel it. If they don’t,
you’ll be wondering all the time if they do.
married life is merely a habit, a bad habit. But then one regrets
the loss even of one’s worst habits. Perhaps one regrets them the
most. They are such an essential part of one;s personality.
when a woman marries again, it is because she detested her first
husband. When a man marries again, it is because he adored his first
wife. Woman try their luck; man risk theirs.
men marry because they are tired; women because they are curiou:
one charm of marriage is that it makes a life of deception
abosolutely necessary for both parties.
2. A good man always supports you.
4.The great advantage of telling the truth is one’s so much more likely
to sound convincing.
Regardless of whether you want to go back to school after 20 years to
get your Master’s degree, start a singing career or stay at home to
raise a family, a good man will always support you and what you want out
of your life. He will never discourage you or make you feel as though
you can’t do what you set out to do. He will be beside you every step of
the way, cheering on your victories and comforting you during your
3. A good man will inspire you.
anything becomes a pleasure if one does it too often
civilization is not by any means an easy thing to attain to. There
are only two ways by which man can reach it. One is by being
cultured, the other by being corrupt.
that a burnt child loves the fire.
each man lived his own life and paid his own price for living it.
The only pity was one had to pay so often for a single fault. One
had to pay over and over again.
to cure the soul by means of the senses, and the senses by means of
more than enough is as good as a feast.
moderation is a fatal thing. Enough is as bad as a meal.
nothing is serious nowadays. At least nothing should be.
perhaps one should never put one’s worship into words.
we live in an age that reads too much to be wise, and that thinks
too much to be beautiful.
the one charm of the past is that it is the past.
one should absorb the color of life, but one should never remember
its details. Details are always vulgar.
there is a luxury in self-reproach. When we blame ourselves, we feel
that no one else has a right to blame us. It is the confession, not
the priest, that gives us absolution.
we live in an age when unnecessary things are our only necessities.
there are many things that we would throw away if we were not afraid
that others might pick them up.
《The Picture of Dorian Gray》的笔记。nowadays people know the price of every thing and the value of
nowadays most people die of a sort of creeping common sense and
discover when it is too late that the only things one never regrets
are one’s mistakes.
if a man is a gentlemanm he knows quite enough, and if he is not a
gentleman, whatever he knowsis bad for him.
young men want to be faithful, and are not; old men want to be
faithless, and cannot.
every moment that passes takes something from me and gives something
there are only two kinds of people who are really fascinating—-
people who know absoltely everything, and people who know absolutely
unselfish people are colourless. They lack individuality.
all that it really demonstrated was that our future would be the
same as our past, and that the sin we had done once, and with
loathing, we would do many times, and with joy.
children begin by loving their parents; as they grow older they
judge them; sometimes they forgive them.
whenever a man does a thoroughly stupid thing, it is always from the
it often happened that when we thought we were experimenting on
others we were really experimenting on ourselves.
as it was, we always misunderstood ourselves and rarely understood
others. Experience was of no ethical value. It was merely the name
men gave to their mistakes.
it is only the sacred things that are worth touching.
to influence a person is to give him one’s own soul. He does not
think his natural thoughts, or burn with his natural passions. His
virtues are not real to him. His sins, if there are such things as
sins, are borrowed. He becomes an echo of someone else’s music, an
actor of a part that has not been written fot him. The aim of life
is self-development. To realize one’s nature perfectly— that is
what each of us is here for. People are afraid of themselves,
nowadays. They have forgotten the highest of all duties, the duty
that ove owes to one’s self. Of course, they are charitable. They
feed the hungry and clothe the beggar. But their own souls starve,
and are naked. Courage has gone out of our race. Perhaps we never
really had it. The terror of society, which is the basis of morals,
the terror of God, which is the secret of religion— these are the
two things that govern us.
being natural is simply a pose, and the most irritating pose i know.
conscience and cowardice are really the same things. Conscience is
the trade-name of the firm. that’s all.
i like persons better than priciples. and i like persons with no
principles that anything else in the world.
poets are not so scrupulous as you are. They know how useful passion
is for publication. Nowadays a broken heart will run to many
5.Misers are no fun to live, but they make great ancestors.
This goes one step beyond supporting you, which can be more passive. To
inspire someone takes effort both in how one lives their own life and
how they encourage others to live theirs. A good man’s drive and
ambition will rub off on you as he pursues his own passions.
4. A good man will work to gain your trust.
6.There is not a heart but has its moments of longing, yearning for
something better, nobler and holier than it knows before.
A good man will want you to be comfortable and confident in your
relationship. The very cornerstone of this is being able to trust
someone, and he will realize that. Without trust, there is no foundation
for love or respect.
a man can be happy with any woman, as long as he does not love her.
to adore someone is certainly better than being adored.
when one is in love, one always begins by deceiving one’s self, and
one always ends by deceiving others.
those for are faithful know only the trival side of love; it is the
faithless who know love’s tragedies.
the people who love only once in their lives are really the shallow
people. What they call their loyalty and their fidelity, i call
either the lethergy of custom or their lack of imagination.
Faithfulness is to the emotional liefe what consistency is to the
life of the intellect— simply a confession of failure.
He will understand that trust is not just handed over to someone — it
has to be earned, and then it has to be kept.
5. A good man will always make you feel beautiful.
7.Conquer fear of death and you are put into possession of you life.
He will understand that making you feel beautiful does not just mean
saying the words to you. It will mean truly making you feel beautiful.
In the way he looks at you, touches you and treats you. He will notice
details when you put effort into your appearance and remind you how
attractive he still finds you, even when you don’t.
the secret of remaining young is never to have an emotion that is
to get back one’s youth, one has merely to repeat one’s follies.
time is jealous of you.
we degenerate into hideous puppets, haunted by the memory of the
passions of which we were too much afraid, and the exquisite
temptations that we had not the courage to yield to. YOUTH! YOUTH!
There is absolutely nothing in the world but youth!
A good man will understand that whether you are in your sweatpants on
the couch or in your evening gown heading to a gala, when you love
someone for who they truly are, everything about them becomes
8.He that is once born, once die.
6. A good man will make you feel safe.
I have always said that I believe one of the best compliments a woman
can give her partner is telling him that she feels safe around him.
Regardless of how attracted she is to you or how funny she thinks you
are or how much money you have, if a woman cannot sleep soundly by your
side at night, none of it matters.
women love us for our defects. If we have enough of them, they will
forgive us everything, even our intellects.
the husbands of very beautiful women belong to the criminal classes.
the only way a woman can ever reform a man is by boring him so
completely that he loses all possible interest in life.
always! that is a dreadful word. It makes me shudder when i hear it.
Women are so fond of using it. They spoil every romance by trying to
make it last forever.
no woman is a genius. women are a decorative sex. They never have
anything to say, but say it charmingly. Women represent the triumph
of matter over mind, just as men represent the triumph of mind over
women were better suited to bear sorrow than men, They lived on
their emotions. They onley thought of their emotions. When they took
lovers, it was merely to have some one with whom they could have
9.The more alternative, the more difficult the choice.
7. A good man does the little things.
Do you need a prescription filled, but have to stay late at work? Did
you mention an art exhibit coming to town and he made plans to take you
to see it? Regardless of how small certain things seem, he will
understand they are really the big things that matter most.
10.The fox changes his skin but not his habits.
8. A good man never crosses the line.
It is natural to have disagreements and even arguments in a
relationship, but there is no reason to make things personal, become
insulting and never, ever to become abusive. A good man will remain calm
and focus on the topic at hand.
11.forgiveness to the injured does belong; but they never pardon who
have done wrong.
9. A good man is always trying to improve himself.
Whether it be learning new things, developing a new skill set, reading a
new book or watching a documentary, a good man who prides himself on
continuous self improvement will always be intellectually challenging
you and keeping your attention. He will be doing these things for
himself, but the added benefit will be the positive impact it has on
10. A good man understands actions speak louder than words.
12.There is a time to speak and a time to be silent.
Having the right man in your life will make you understand that people
who make empty promises do not deserve your respect. People who keep
promises deserve your respect, and he will be one of them.
11. A good man will open up to you.
It can be difficult for some people to express their emotions, fears and
even inner-most desires, but having the right person in our lives often
helps to open those doors. A good man, while understanding of course
that some things are to be kept private, will not hide things from you
or bottle up his feelings, knowing that doing so will cause tension and
13.People with tact have less to retract.
12. A good man will always be honest with you.
When building a foundation for a happy, healthy relationship, a good man
will understand that honesty is always the best policy.
14.To do injustice is more disgraceful than to suffer it.
13. A good man will make you feel comfortable being honest.
Comfort in a relationship (the good kind, not the kind that makes you
stop trying) comes from the ability to be open and honest with your
partner — and the ability to do this comes from knowing you will never
be judged. A good man will encourage you to open up and share your
feelings with him. There should never be any fear of him flying off the
handle or overreacting if you share something with him.
This means being able to be the most genuine, uncensored version of
yourself around him.
15.Regardless of how much patience we have, we would prefer never to use
any of it.
14. A good man will never be abusive.
Perhaps the most important point of all. Whether it be mentally,
emotionally or physically, a good man will never even think about being
abusive towards you or harmful in any way. If this happens to you,
please have the courage and respect for yourself in order to talk to
someone or walk away immediately. No good person would ever act like
this, and it will not get better on its own.
15. A good man will stand by you.
16.Some folks never exaggerate–they just remember big.
When a man commits his love and his time to someone, there are no
stipulations or circumstances required. There will be good times and
there will be not-so-good times. There will be challenges and unexpected
situations that arise. But he will stay by your side and be your
teammate through it all.
Of course, there is an asterisk to this. This does not mean you can
disrespect your partner, lie or cheat. It does not mean you can betray
his trust and expect him to stick around because he promised to commit
to you. This point is about things the two of you go through together
and him having the integrity to not walk away when times get hard.
Any man can be by your side on the sunny days. The real test of
character is whether or not he will hold the umbrella over you during
the stormy days.
17.Thieves respect property; they merely wish the property to become
their property that they may more perfectly respect it.
Remember, if the person you are with puts in the effort to be this
person for you, please let him know how much you appreciate him. No
matter how kind someone is, there is no emptier feeling than giving your
heart to someone who you feel takes it for granted.
- In a way, nobody sees a flower really. It is so small; we haven’t
time. And to see takes time, as to have a friend takes time.
19.How majestic is naturalness.I have never met a man whom I really
considered a great man who was not always natural and simple.
Affectation is inevitably the mark of one not sure of himself.
20.The worst bankrupt is the person who lost his enthusiasm.
— H.W.Arnold H.W.阿诺德
21.People want know how much you care before they care how much you
–James Hind 詹姆斯.欣德
22.There are good man everywhere. I only wish they had louder voices.
–Louis L’Amour 路易斯.拉穆尔
23.The better we feel about ourselves, the fewer times we have to knock
somebody else down to feel tall.
–Brian Lanker 布赖恩.兰克
24.The miracle is this–the more we share, the more we have.
–Leonard Nimoy 伦纳德.莫尼哀
25.It is awfully easy to be hard-boiled about everything in the daytime,
but at night it is another thing.
26.A mother becomes a true grandmother the day she stops noticing the
terrible things her children do because she is enchanted with the
wonderful things her grandchildren do.
27.Somewhere in the world there is defeat for everyone. Some are
destroyed by defeat, and some made small and mean by victory. Greatness
lives in one who triumphs equally over defeat and victory.
–John Steinbeck 约翰.斯坦贝克
28.Don’t fool yourself that you going to have it all. You are not.
Psychologically, having it all is not even a valid concept. The
marvelous thing about human beings is that we perpetually reaching for
the stars. The more we have, the more we want. And for this reason, we
never have it all.
29.There are lots of people who mistake their imagination for their
–Josh Billings 乔希.比林斯
30.To err is human, to forgive, divine.
31.People throw away what they could have by insisting on perfection,
which they cannot have, and looking for it where they will never find
——Edith Schaeffer 伊迪丝·谢弗
32.What we all tend to complain about most in other people are those
things we don’t like about ourselves.
——William Wharton 威廉·沃顿
33.Only God is in a position to look down on anyone.
——Sarah Brown 萨拉·布朗
- There is a limit at which forbearance ceases to be a virtue.
——Edmund Burke 埃德蒙·伯克
35.Everyone complains of his memory, and nobody complains of his
——La Rockefoucauld 拉罗什富科
- The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
——Franklin Roosevelt 富兰克林·罗斯福
37.Plenty of folks are so contrary that if they should fall into the
river, they would insist upon floating upstream.
——Josh Billings 乔希·比林斯
38.Solitary shots should be ignored, but when they come from several
directions, It’s time to pay attention. As someone once said, “If one
calls you a donkey, ignore him. If two call you a donkey, check for hoof
prints. If three call you a donkey, get a saddle.”
——Marshall Shelley 马歇尔·谢利
39.There is an unconscious heeling process within the mind which mends
up in spite of our desperate determination never to forget.
——Colleen McCullough 科林·麦卡洛
40.You shall have joy or you shall have power, said God; you shall not
41.Vice is a monster of so frightful mien, as to be hated, needs but to
be seen; yet seen too oft, familiar with her face, we first endure, then
pity, then embrace.
42.To respect a person is not possible without knowing him.
——Erich Fromm 埃立克·弗洛姆